Because sometimes all you need is just a listener

I used to have strong views on things in life like why choose the bad boy if you have a nice guy waiting around for you? Why create drama in your life when you can simplify it? But there's this thing called chemistry and fate which you just cannot run away from. Some things are meant to be. And yup, chemistry is a great pulling factor until you get tired of being pulled.

Or that we should always forgive each other especially the ones that we love or those who matter to us. You know, forgive and forget. But it's not as simple as that. There's a lot of things in that forgiveness equation that accounts largely for emotions, which is a taxing factor. Why bother forgiving when you can just ignore the person completely? Saves a lot of your time and energy by not having to take that emotional roller coaster, recollecting how much and how bad that person hurts you and evaluating whether forgiveness is enough to make all the pain go away.

You know, if I was my 21 year old self I'd probably say, why go back to your dumb bad boy? Or why can't you just kiss and make up with dotdotdot? Life's too short for all these dramas. And yes, my 21 year old self would force it down your throat to do what I told you to do - leave that bad boy, forgive that person. I would even go as far as giving cold treatment to you if you didn't listen to me.

Meet the control freak in me.

But as I grow older my view of the world and people changed. I think I understand more now that life is not that simple. You have choices, good and bad, but at the end of the day, what satisfies you is normally what satisfies the heart. Who am I to judge if you follow your heart instead of brain? The process of judging what you'll do against what should be done is laborious. Nobody likes laborious task especially when it involves the inner self, the heart. 

So I guess I'll just be here listening to the story of your life. No judging. No telling you what to do.

Unless of course, you ask for my advice. I won't force you to follow my advice, I promise.